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Not every question has an answer we can reach. Learning to live openly with mystery is itself a kind of maturity.
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Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart, and try to love the questions themselves.
We are taught, from our earliest years, that questions exist to be answered. A question mark is a small problem; the answer closes it. This works beautifully for arithmetic and for directions. It works far less well for the deepest questions a human being can ask.
Why is there something rather than nothing? What happens when we die? Why do the innocent suffer? These questions have been asked for as long as there have been people, by minds far greater than most of us possess, and they remain open. That is not a failure of intelligence. It may be the nature of the questions.
The mind dislikes an open question the way the body dislikes an itch. We reach for any answer that will close it — sometimes a good one, sometimes a false certainty we cling to simply because uncertainty is unbearable.
But a premature answer can be worse than an honest "I don't know." False certainty makes us rigid, and rigid people are rarely wise or kind. The willingness to say "I am not sure" is the beginning of both humility and real inquiry.
There is another way to hold an unanswerable question: not as a problem demanding a solution, but as a companion for the journey. A question you carry gently keeps you curious, keeps you humble, keeps you looking.
A person certain of everything has stopped growing.
A person open to mystery keeps discovering.
You came looking for one answer. This is where it opens out.
Perhaps the point is not to resolve every question before we can live, but to live wholeheartedly in their presence. To let the great questions keep us awake rather than keep us stuck.
Some answers are not given to thinking at all. They are lived slowly, over a whole life, and understood only near the end — if ever. That is not a tragedy. It is what it means to be human, and to keep walking anyway.